As we’re working to recover, one of the most important things we can do for ourselves and our mental health is learn how to handle the toxic people in our lives. Many of us feel that our addictive behaviors and mental illnesses are compounded by the stress we experience in our relationships. We have partnerships, friendships and family relationships that worsen our anxiety rather than contributing to our peace of mind. We have a lot of conflict in our lives. We feel a tremendous amount of turmoil. Healing ourselves means learning how to navigate the relationships that are challenging for us, so that we can move forward and have healthier, happier relationships.
Some of our relationships will be so toxic we decide we have to separate ourselves completely. We feel we can’t keep these people in our lives and work on our recovery at the same time. They might be addicts themselves and actively using. They might pressure us to use or influence decisions we’re unhappy with. They might present too much temptation, and we finally choose to prioritize our commitment to our sobriety over this relationship that is causing us distress. We might be caught in cycles of codependence and enabling each other’s addictive patterns. We often come to realize that we’ve been settling for far less than we deserve in our relationships. We’ve been putting up with unfair and unkind treatment, and we finally decide that we will no longer put up with it.
With other relationships, such as close family members, we might feel we don’t want to lose them altogether. We feel we might need to give ourselves some space and time in order to heal ourselves and navigate the issues in our relationships. Sometimes we need solitude and distance in order to process difficult issues and gain the necessary clarity and insight. Oftentimes we have family members also struggling with addiction and mental illness, and we’re living with similar issues and challenges, causing strain and turmoil in both our personal lives and our relationships. Many times these are relationships we don’t want to give up on, but we might need to put boundaries in place in order to prioritize our healing.
Whether we decide to separate ourselves completely, or merely give ourselves some space and time, it’s so important that we do what we need to do for our own healing. We won’t be able to have healthy relationships until we learn how to put ourselves first and prioritize our own well-being.
Corner Canyon Recovery’s treatment programs offer family assessment, family therapy, communication skill building and family weekends, to help our loved ones cope with the challenges of our addictions and heal alongside us. Call 866-399-3469 today for more information.